The first thing you need to understand and realize is that being sexually abused is not your fault. No matter what you were wearing, or what you were doing at the time, being sexually abused against your will is not your fault.
The adversary–Satan–would have us believe otherwise. That we asked for it. We should have been smarter. We shouldn’t have been doing this or that. It’s your fault because you were leading him/her on. Because you may feel disgusting, dirty, worthless, guilty, etc., that’s proof it is your fault.
Lies. All lies. We know from the scriptures who is the source of these lies: “And he became Satan, yea, even the devil, the father of all lies, to deceive and to blind men, and to lead them captive at his will” (Moses 4:4).
Satan lies to us because he knows of our worth to our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ, and doesn’t want us to know how worthy and precious we really are, because then he loses his power he thinks he has over us.
Through another person’s agency, we have been abused and we are not at fault. Elder Richard G. Scott said, “I solemnly testify that when another’s acts of violence, perversion, or incest hurt you terribly, against your will, you are not responsible and you must not feel guilty.”
I know this can be hard to not only realize, but to let go of the deeply held belief that it is somehow your fault, but an apostle of the Lord said it’s not your fault! Ask Heavenly Father to help you know it and let go of the burden you carry, the burden of responsibility, which is not yours to hold on to.